From Meg -
It was so not like that at all. It was like, "So I really just got to come in here and like talk about this stuff and cry like every week?" And for months I just felt like nothing was moving, you know. I did not want to accept it. I was like this is not who I want to be. And I was like, "This is where you are. The reason that you want to be someone else, that's why you're here". But the only way to go through, to get to where you want to be is to go through a period where you feel like you're sucking. It's going to look like you're sucking and you're not doing anything.
But again, coming back to day-by-day change doesn't really look like a lot, but over a series of months I could look back and be like, "Oh, I would have freaked out about this situation six months ago, but I actually felt like I dealt with it like a person or like I was able to communicate my own needs and intentions without bottling them and feeling like I was putting the other person out. It took a long time for that work to manifest itself in action. But I was doing the work the whole time. I just wanted more tangible results.