From Michael -
I think there's an anger of these old patterns still kinda clawing at me and trying to pull me out. And maybe a healthy anger would be like pushing away from it. Not like a seven-year-old kid who wants to wait around for the path to open up magically. Maybe an anger at the shadow elements in me and the stuff that still wants to come back and sabotage it. Like I wish it wasn't there. I think anger to me is about having a grievance and then it being broken. And so I think my agreement with myself is that I will transform and will step into this and then anger shows up when I'm noticing myself being held back or holding onto this way.
From Danny -
But also to me, anger. Anger for me is one of the most loving emotions. That might sound strange. But I think for people assigned female at birth and women are basically told - not everyone again, but in my experience from my case study with my clients.- to just ignore anger and continue to people please or do whatever people want within, which is pretty disturbing and alarming. And it's not their fault. It's not any woman's fault. It's not any person who's assigned to female at birth. It's not their fault.
For me anger is something that says “this is a limit.” It's a limitation. It's a boundary. And boundaries create safety for the experience of love, specifically self love. So if your anger comes up, it's a red flag. It's like your body saying: I don't want to be in this environment or I don't want this person to touch me, whatever it is. So for me, learning to listen to my anger and actually create a boundary because of it or around it, it's almost set the foundation for love to actually come in.